Nobody Has to Listen to You
As long as you listen to your intuition, with no doubt or hesitation, nobody else matters.
Of course we are all here to build relationships.
To connect with one another.
To learn from one another.
To hone our discernment, our spiritual antenna; not in man made morality but the “right” and “wrong” of our spirit.
Oftentimes, we feel entitled to have a listening ear.
Because we have something to say, there has to be somebody out there that is supposed to listen to me.
First, that is a narcissistic way of thinking. That must be stopped to develop a healthy relationship, with yourself and others.
To need someone to listen to you, to long for it, tells of a void within. A socket needing a plug to feel worthy. A penis needing vagina to “take out the stress of the day”.
This speaks to our relationship with pain and pleasure. Different degrees of this pain-pleasure spectrum are the vantage points from which we see life.
“Is this a harmful environment? Exit stage left, got it.”
“Is this true love that I feel? This awkwardness somehow feels…good? Let's see how this goes”
You see, our relationships all stem from within.
How we feel about ourselves, how clear we are with our purpose in life, how proud of ourselves we are of our accomplishments and achievements.
What we believe and perceive the world to be, in relation to ourselves, at any given moment. How our beliefs carry us through life, whether they are sourced from us or not.
This is where the first node of communication starts: within the mind.
Have you ever wondered why sitting down, getting comfortable being with yourself, and going out in nature (e.g. forest bathing) have the same effects?
You are nature and nature is you.
The difference is one is stable, ever consistent. Birds, insects, animals, feathers, colors and many more entities all hold consistent symbolism.
The other, being you, is influenced mentally from birth to survive based on the perceptions of your most recent forebears. Once your soul has undergone enough ignorance as its foundation, it wakes up and then you start to do the mental inventory.
Then you realize…wait…I've been listening to other people my entire life.
That is when you become aware of one of the most essential prerequisites to sustained self-love, self-care, self-actualization, self-realization, and most importantly self-knowledge: the only voice that truly matters is the one within.
Nature's Automatic Flow
Animals move about, needing no validation or approval. They are not checking if we notice them or not.
They teach their young and continue to survive to live, or die, another day.
Trees stand firm, deeply rooted below and above, allowing us to breathe. They do their job, they fulfill their role, and keep it pushing.
There is no wrestling with the intelligence within. Automatic obedience to one’s true nature.
But we have the nerve to say we're above animals…
When you understand the interconnectedness of the Universe, you no longer need someone to listen to you. There's much conversation within that needs a listening ear.
Stop all the trauma dumping, go sit down somewhere
Many of us have fallen victim to this behavior.
A nice personality, you may have. Codependency, you may struggle with.
Either way, to hear someone release all their stress onto you is not comfortable. By any means. I do not care how spiritual you are.
If anything, giving spiritual consultations takes energy and also protection.
As we discussed, this is all in the realm of communication. Language supersedes words. Vibrating in your vocal cords are tones, inflections when you speak, resonances that are breeding grounds, cess pools for like energies. Once emitted, they have an effect on the listener. Hence, why you like to listen to some and others you have to run away from.
Now turn this on yourself, reader. Yes you.
This is uncalled for. If you have done it before, ignorantly or not, there is no shame. Remember, you are your soul not this human body. But...you must take responsibility for your communicative endeavors.
Nobody has to listen to you. Nobody has to let you finish your sentence. Nobody has to respect what you say. Nobody is required to show courtesy. We live in a world full of individuals, souls on different planes of consciousness.
Talk to yourself. In public and behind closed doors. Stop acting like that is somehow crazy.
Listen to yourself. Find your favorite music and zone out to it, giving the ego (consciousness mind) its pacifier/bottle while your intuition/higher self/soul speaks directly to you.
Nobody has to listen to you except you.
